I’m not going to blog what I’d planned tonight, because I received an email forward that inspired some thoughts to spill out into print. Just wanted to share this instead. I wish I knew who wrote it. First the forward, which you may well recognize, then where my mind wandered…

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person… When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any Wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, and their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on..

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it; it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons – things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

To be quite honest, I hated this the first time I ever saw it. I thought it was depressing and one of the dumbest things a person could ever believe – just a fancily worded cop out for not being able to sustain a long term relationship. Then a funny – or perhaps not so funny – thing happened. I started living it (without my permission, mind you). I’ve had two very precious friends, women for whom I’d have done almost anything, just up and flake out on me out of the clear blue. No legitimate reason – they were just gone – poof! One has been just a year now, and the other maybe four, and both gone right at this time of the year. Sometimes I find myself missing one or the other of them so badly that I think my heart is going to break all over again.

My first reaction to the loss of each was anger, and how I wanted to hate them for hurting me so terribly! But, thank God, though the pain is still part of me, He’s allowed me to see just how instrumental each of them was to me becoming the person that I am today – very far from perfect, but I think a little closer to what He would want of me. When I started thinking back as far as I could through the people I’ve known, and especially those I’ve loved as friends, I can, with very little effort, see at least one particular gift each has left with me before taking a fork in the road to continue their life journey along another path. No, I will never stop missing the companionship of their friendship, and if I had a choice, all my friends would be “forever friends,” but how can I harbor anger toward a gift that was hand picked for me by a loving God – even if it was a jewel to hold in my hand only for a season?

So I no longer hate this little piece – well… other than the fact that it reminds me that friends aren’t always forever. Every time I read it, though, I take a moment or two to reminisce and be grateful for every friend who has walked a ways with me – and I smile.

Come walk with me and be my friend;

Share sunny days, and laughter lend.

Let me hold your hand and cry

When pain and hardships don’t pass by.

Teach me things I need to know,

And I will help you, too, to grow.

My prayer would be that we might stay

Friends until our dying day,

But if our paths cross briefly, still

Our friendship will His purpose fill.

So walk with me and be my friend,

And when our days together end,

Sweet memories I’ll feast upon

And pray for you as I hike on.

©De-De Heeter 2008

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  1. De-De:
    Thank you. I deleted the initial fw: as glurge, then thought some about it. Then healed some. Then noticed that the healing hadn’t begun until I had been able to “release” my friend.
    Thanks for the poem– it works.
    xoxo, Nancy

  2. Nancy, thanks for taking a moment to let me know. You made my day! De-De

  3. Hi De-De.
    Thanks for the kind comments about the Wool Gathering & Buttercup. I think we sold both she & Talia to a nice family on Air Hill. (so she will be close if you need more fiber) I am finishing an on-line store that will be functional in a month. Then we will have a real store location here next spring. Hope everything is going well.
    Best regards,
    Gary Simpson
    Gary & Maryann
    Tri-Valley Alpacas

  4. You found me! (I’m saying that with a smile. :o)) Nice to hear from you here. Things are a little better than they were a couple weeks ago, as I finally have my power restored. You deserved everything I said and more. Looking forward to seeing your online store, and hopefully getting out for a visit sometime soon. Then I will have another fun blog post to write!

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